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Sermon 118 – I’m Sorry

Proverbs 20:6 … most men will proclaim their own goodness, but a faithful man is hard to find.

In Australia, the deputy Prime Minister, Barnaby Joyce, has been exposed for adultery. He’s been challenged about promoting the woman, with whom he’s had an affair, into a higher job position. His family is struggling with being dumped and publicly embarrassed. As a consequence, the Prime Minister has publicly suggested that Mr. Joyce’s behaviour is unacceptable and included a ‘no sex with staff’ in the code of conduct agreement. Mr. Joyce says he’s sorry, but at the same time he’s challenged the Prime Minister’s reaction. As far as he’s concerned it’s his own private business and no one has the right to judge him or tell him what to do. His sorry is mixed with arrogance and blame.

Fake sorry = don’t tell me what to do

Recently, I corrected a young man in our fellowship for his selfish attitude of envy and pride. He said sorry, then went about defending himself with his good deeds and ended up blaming me for the correction. In other words, he was telling me how he should have been corrected. From his perspective I was over-the-top. The truth is, he wouldn’t be put in his place.

Responsibility vs. Blame

I always find it fascinating how when someone sins they blame the authority for correcting them instead of taking responsibility for their sin and whole-heartedly accepting the correction. As far as they’re concerned, they’re a good person so sorry should see the end of it. Like king Saul, a selfish proud spirit won’t accept they’re wrong, even though they’ll often agree they are. These people will always ultimately look for excuses to defend their selfishness.

God doesn’t accept sorry

God only accepts repentance; He doesn’t accept sorry. God didn’t accept Judas’ sorry, but He did Peter’s. One sorry was an apology because he was exposed and embarrassed & probably blamed Jesus for putting him in that position by making him the treasurer. The other sorry was an acceptance of responsibility with sincere remorse resulting in repentance. One sorry re-evaluates that it’s not as bad as was first portrayed, the other sorry knows it was wrong and humbles itself to the punishment. One is too proud to bend, the other bends and repents.

Judas sorry

Most people say sorry to get out of trouble. They don’t really mean it. Why? The pride of humanity doesn’t like being told it’s wrong. Most people believe they have the right to diagnose and surgically remove anything that’s bad, themselves. They don’t like other people telling them they’re wrong. Their pride can’t handle it.

Blame attached to sorry means you’re not sorry

You can’t say sorry and blame at the same time; it’s a contradiction. Saying sorry with an excuse, is not sorry; it’s selfish. Blame attached to sorry is the same as saying … “sorry for upsetting you but you’re wrong for correcting or punishing me the way you did. I’m willing to be told I’m wrong but I don’t like you telling me I’m wrong (which obviously doesn’t make sense); and you made me do it anyway”.

What the person is really saying is … I think I’m good. You shouldn’t tell me I’m bad! I have the right to decide whether I’ve done wrong, you don’t. In other words, they won’t be told, or they’ll pretend to be, but in their heart, they don’t like being put in their place.

Being put in your place

Being put in your place, is generally read as being put-down, when in fact, it may be a beneficial correction to your pride of position. Pride won’t interpret the difference but rather objects to the correction, in which case it clearly does need to be put in its place.

I’m right because you are wrong

Ask yourself … do you deduce you are right when someone who’s offended you is corrected?

The truth is, only pride makes the deduction … I’m right because you’re wrong, or I’m good because you are corrected. Just because someone is corrected doesn’t necessarily mean that you are right, and someone’s wrongness doesn’t prove you are good. You can’t conclude rightness based on someone else’s wrong. You may both be wrong. In fact, if this is your common deduction, then you, yourself, are full of your own pride.

Humanity makes its deductions based on its feelings

Most people believe that what they feel is the truth. Their deductions are based on how they feel. If you hurt my feelings then you’re not nice and you deserve to pay for it. This is the thinking of the anti-Christ, not Jesus. A genuine Christian makes his deductions by faith. Faith is the engine of his spirit, not feelings. If you’re running on feelings you’d better submit to correction to restore yourself to faith or you’ll eventually derail.

A faithful Christian accepts his feelings (whether it be heaviness, loneliness, failure, hurts, purposeless) as the burden of life that he shares with Christ. The feelings drive him to Christ … cast your cares on Him because he cares for you … as his strength and source.

The world is chasing happy feelings

The human spirit doesn’t like feeling bad, which is why if it gets caught, it says sorry, so it can get back to its good feelings. As far as the world is concerned, if I say sorry, that should be the end of it, and if it isn’t then you’ve got the problem. It’s a convenient way of ignoring one’s own sin and casting the blame onto someone else.

The world wants happy feelings all the time. It chases after it through … success, money, friends, marriage, travel, sex, fun, drugs, alcohol, & super challenges.  The fake church sells happiness so it can take advantage of what the world is looking for, so it can increase its numbers and money and look good to the world so it’s not persecuted.  Thus, the fake church is just like the world.

If you’re chasing happy feelings, then you’re of the world, not of Christ

Christ doesn’t offer happiness; He offers blessedness, and that’s a completely different product …  blessed are you when you are persecuted, merciful, meek, mourn & poor … Matthew 5.

Happiness is transient and temporary; it’s based on luck. It never permanently fulfils; it always has to be chased for more, and it always produces envy against those who seem to have it.

Blessedness is based on faith. It’s a commitment to Christ, based on a relationship of love. It doesn’t seek happy feelings. It simply serves Him and trusts Him whatever the feelings and outcome.

It’s never really a ‘happy’ issue

On the surface humanity says it’s chasing happiness, but that’s just a cover for the real hidden agenda of … I can do what I want; no one’s going to tell me what I can and can’t do. If you don’t want to be told, you’ll chase what you want. Thus, Barnaby Joyce is now exposed for his real agenda and Satan wins and secretly controls another lost spirit.

Freedom strategy

The whole purpose of blame and hurt is to get you to retaliate against a demonic spirit so you come under its power. Satan argues ‘feelings’ through blame and guilt to trap you in His power. It’s the tickling of your feelings that is the temptation. Sin is acting on the temptations.

Conversely, God argues sin. This puts the argument on the spirit level, rather than the feeling level.

A remnant Christian goes to God’s Word for the truth of a person’s attack against them and either repents for being wrong, or righteously refuses to accept the blame and puts the responsibility for the sin back onto the shoulders of the blamer. They still may suffer the feelings of blame but they’re free from the power of the blame; they’ve shared it with the Lord. Elijah stood up to Ahab, David stood up to King Saul, Shadrach stood up to Nebuchadnezzar, and Jesus stood up to the Pharisees.

The remnant needs to learn the righteous path to Godly aggressive humility to stand up against the sinner, rather than being sucked into the satanic trick to react to hurt feelings.

 

Pastor Nick Clarence

 

 

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Posted by on February 17, 2018 in Blame, Correction

 

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Sermon 111 – the Blame Game

Blame can be defined as … making some else responsible for my hassles.

Blame originated in the garden of Eden. Humanity can’t stop the thought of blame. It’s inherent in everyone’s spirit. We often practice it subconsciously with the voices we hear against others and the hassles of our circumstances.

The first thing a human does when they think they’re in trouble is look for an escape route of blame.

Blame is of Satan

Blame is a quality of Satan. It is not a characteristic of the Holy Spirit. The voice of the temptation to blame comes directly from Satan, not from God. Satan won this right when he tricked Eve with the carrot of elevation. He sold her the lie that God was holding something back from her and that she could be her own god and know good and evil. She took the bait and became Satan’s slave to sin. The good and evil she now knew was only seen from her selfish perspective. What she thought was good was only what felt good to her own thinking, and everything else was bad to her as far as she could see.

Feelings, not faith

Humanity makes its judgments on how it feels. A Christian talks to God to get His perspective; he doesn’t rely on his feelings; they more often trick you into Satan’s web. Once you’re in a web the more you try and fight it the more entangled you become. There’s only one way out of a web… you need someone greater than yourself to break off the web. Through acknowledgement of your sin, Jesus can free you from Satan’s web. There’s no other way.

Self-protection

When you protect your selfishness, blame will follow. Blame flows from selfishness and selfishness is simply me first. So when you practice blame you are practicing Satanism. You are simply worshipping yourself without even knowing it. The carrot of elevation has blinded your eyes to the truth and your feelings become your justice system. You’ve ignorantly become the judge and set yourself up as your own god. It’s anti-christ behaviour; it’s elevation and it’s selfish. It’s opposite to dying to yourself by trusting God and waiting on Him for his justice.

You can only blame others for your circumstances when you are selfish. It doesn’t feel selfish, it feels fair and just. But that’s the point; you’re analysing the truth based on your feelings, and when you practice that you confirm you’re not in the kingdom of heaven, because Jesus doesn’t practice that, only Satan does.

Cop the cross

When Jesus allowed Himself to be sacrificed on the cross He was allowing humanity to throw their blame on Him. It was totally unjust and unfair, but He did it because the Father willed it, and because he did it, humanity can be saved from its sin. The problem is, humanity can’t see its sin that it needs to be saved from. It prefers to live in the injustice of its hurts and cast blame. Whilst it does this it can never be free; it will always be under the power of Satan, no matter how much it tries or pretends otherwise; no matter how much good it thinks it does. You can be as good as you like, but eventually you will be exposed as selfish through the sin of blame.

Blasphemy

Collins dictionary defines blame as casting fault and even blaspheming. Blaspheming and blame come from the same French root. So often we automatically blame God for not coming through for us the way we want. It’s telling God how He’s supposed to behave towards us. It’s casting dispersions on the Spirit that dwells in us and if we’re not careful, it’s blasphemy. Blasphemy is the degrading of the Spirit of God by putting the blame on God instead of Satan. It’s calling the Holy Spirit, unholy.

Climate change

We look at the world’s chaos and blame God for not fixing the problems. We’re good so He should be good to us. We fail to stop and remind ourselves that the sickness of the world is the fruit of sin. Climate change is not due to climate, it’s due to sin. The Bible tells us that we come from dust and return to dust. That is, our spirit and body are directly connected to the earth we dwell on. Consequently, when we sin we pollute the land we live on. If our country endorses homosexuality, free sex, and abortion, don’t blame God for the decay of the earth; stop sinning and obey His ten commandments.

Money

Our country loves money. Our economy is the people’s prime concern. We trade with China and ignore its human rights record against fellow Christians because we love money more. We’re more interested in money than the poor, and money gives you position over people, and we falsely believe that money is a measurement of how much God loves you. Don’t blame God for the mess when He taught that the love of money is the root of all evil.

You hurt my feelings

King Saul is a prime example of how when you forget where you’ve come from and allow elevated position to rise up in you, you start envying your neighbour. You get hurt by what people say and do and hold grievances against them. From there you do what you’re told your way, and when you’re confronted that it isn’t God’s way you defend your position with blame (1 Samuel 15). The consequences of these actions results in rebellion, can’t be told, superstition and witchcraft, and eventually demonic possession.

David

On the other hand, a David cops the unjust blame and turns to the Lord for His justice and protection. A genuine Christian behaves like David and thus, Christ; he cops the blame and never blames. He ducks the javelins and He turns to the Lord and waits on His justice, not expecting any justice for himself. He’s only interest is serving Jesus Christ. A fake Christian acts good like King Saul, but their heart has elevated itself with its own importance. It thinks it’s the king and won’t listen to the prophet. It’s caught in the web of Satan.

Faith or family-blame

King Saul was David’s father-in-law. If anyone should have understood him, you would think that his wife’s family would be there to support him. But that’s not how it was and David had to run and trust God at the same time, and that’s the walk of a faithful Christian. If you waste your life blaming your parents or sister for your hurts, then you are not in Christ. A faithful Christian takes responsibility for blaming and repents and trusts the Lord’s plan with the hurts.

Suffer to reign

If you want to reign with Christ you have to suffer with Christ (2 Timothy 2:11,12); it’s not a free ride like the modern church teaches. Jesus is not Santa Claus, but most people join the church so they can get the goodies for being good and then blame God for not delivering, or get trapped into the fake worship God because they do get what they prayed for.

The Bible teaches that all that live Godly in Christ Jesus will suffer persecution (2 Timothy 3:12), and blame is part of that package. If you’re not interested in copping it then you’re not really interested in Christ; you’re only using Him and telling Him how He is to behave for you.

If you truly want to walk with Christ, then like Christ and David, expect to be blamed and when it hurts turn to the Lord and not to yourself. If you don’t do this, you will end up like King Saul and miss the kingdom.

 

Pastor Clive Fadden

 
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Posted by on April 10, 2017 in Blame

 

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