Is it possible for hate to be built on love, or love to be built on hate?
I asked some Christian folk how they would define HATE. Their responses were along the lines of … detesting someone, or super angry with someone.
I then asked … where does this hate originate from?
They each brought up certain incidences of injustice in their childhood, but it could all be summarised as “they hurt my feelings”.
I then asked … what was your reaction to these hurt feelings?
Their answers included … withdraw, blame, feel bad, switch-off, block-it, and justify why they were wrong, and determine not to be told what to do.
I then asked … how do you cover these hurt feelings?
Assuming that you didn’t retaliate with perverted rebellious behaviour, their common answers were basically … be good, be nice, and be busy.
I then asked … why do you cover these hurt feelings?
I received a range of responses, but they effectively boiled down to … “so my IMAGE isn’t tainted”.
I then asked … how do you propagate this IMAGE and why?
The responses included … increase my knowledge, increase my skills, be nice, popularity, and work harder. We do these things to protect and build our image, and to position myself above my neighbour, so ultimately, I’m the boss and no one can tell me what to do.
I then asked … how would you define LOVE?
The general responses were … caring, warming to someone, no anger, respectful, and wanting to be around someone. That is, practicing these things and expecting them in return.
I then asked … can you live in middle ground between hate and love?
They generally agreed that you could, but, this is the typically wrong perspective of the modern Christian.
Now, let’s look at it from God’s perspective. God says, middle ground is neither hot nor cold (revelation 3:16), and therefore, cold. So, from God’s perspective, there’s no middle ground, it’s either love or hate. If you don’t operate in love, then you operate in hate, and if you operate in hate then you are not operating in love. It’s either, love or hate.
If you live in middle ground, then you call your hate, ‘good’, and God says that’s evil (Isaiah 5:20,21). And, if you live in middle ground, then you worship your own IMAGE, and God says that’s defying and disrespecting His 2nd commandment. It may not be graven into wood or stone, but you’re still ignorantly bowing down to it and worshiping it.
Middle ground means … I worship ME and pretend to worship God.
Hate is the opposite of love
God defines hate as … the fruit of “I love ME as No.1, so don’t TELL ME what to do”; and God defines love as … God, the Father is No.1, so He TELLS me what to do, and I do what I’m told.
Love is … “ok, God, I don’t like it, but Your will, not mine, be done”. Love is seeing from God’s perspective. God’s insight flows from doing what’s right in His eyes, rather than what’s right in your own eyes.
Hate is just the secret worship of ME, and love is the worship of God, for God.
Hate judges, love evaluates. Hate bosses, love trusts God’s plan.
You can’t make a judgement against someone, unless you live in hate, and you can’t love IMAGE unless you live in hate.
So, in reality, reacting to hurt offences is just loving myself, first, and hate flows from this self-love.
Self- love is focused on the other person’s offence against me. Agape love is focused on God’s will and how I serve it, for God.
You have to be dead first before you can be resurrected
The truth is, if you’re not dead to yourself you can’t properly see God, you will automatically operate in hidden hatred and make your judgments from that foundation, and more importantly, you can never be resurrected into His life. Without death there’s no heaven, no matter how good you think you are.
Good doesn’t cut it
You can’t solve your pride by trying to be more respectful, more good, more committed, or keeping silent with no apparent offensive opinion, or practicing pretense. That’s salvation by works, not by faith. Good will never cancel out hate. The only solution is turning to God to address your hate, and this can’t happen until you agree that you have it. You can’t change your sinful heart. You have to call out to God to change it, and He’ll use hate to do it.
The test will be your reaction to being bossed, corrected, or someone who challenges or mocks your opinion, especially with intimidation. You should take your moody reaction to Christ and ask Him to address your pride.
Ok, we fail, but there’s a big difference between ignorantly and blindly living in hate (like King Saul) and falling into it (like David).
I then asked … how can you reverse self-love into God’s love?
Just as the foundation of hate is self-love (known as ‘pride’), so, the foundation of God’s love is the hate of hate, that is, the hate of sin (Zechariah 8:17, & Revelations 2:6). Consequently, you can hate on the foundation of love, if you hate sin, but you can never love on the foundation of hate.
That’s why, God hated Esau (Romans 9:13), because as much as Esau tried, his heart was focused on himself. That’s why God loved David and hated King Saul. They both sinned, but David repented because his heart was toward God. Saul’s’ heart was towards Saul.
What’s hate got to do with it?
Because, firstly, hate defines your relationship with God (1 John 2:11). If your love is built on the foundation of hate, whether you want to know it or not, then you are not related to God even though you vehemently demand you are.
And, secondly, because, you need hate to find God’s love. Just as hate controls everybody’s moods, so hate is the pill that you must swallow in order to stop hating. This means you have to suffer hate (Matthew 24:9) and the devaluing of your opinion to cure your hatred and high opinion of yourself … that’s the ‘cross’, that’s the place of ‘baptism into His death’ (Romans 6:4), that’s where you deny yourself, daily (Mark 8:34, Luke 9:23). Without hate, you can’t find the cross, you can’t die, and you can’t be resurrected to eternal life (John 12:25).
Why won’t so-called Christians listen to this truth?
Pride believes it has.
Pride blames and doesn’t accept responsibility for its sinful reactions.
Pride believes it’s good already.
Pride feeds on the FEAR of looking bad, of losing its IMAGE, and of persecution (Galatians 6:12).
Nothing of self, all of God.
May God open the eyes of His remnant to see their sin and instead be willing to suffer reproach for His Name!
Pastor Clive Douglas